Ladies taunt with ” sticks and stone may break my bones but whips and chains excite me, so tie me down and show me that you like me” but sometimes not all are ready for what that entails. I find with the releasing of 50 shades of gray people who might not be able to handle the lifestyle often romanticize it, while also not fully grasping that what they read in 50 shades is truly abusive.
I mean who is actually okay with being stalked? At one point in the book, Anastasia even says “of course he knows where I live. What able, cell phone-tracking, helicopter-owning stalker wouldn’t?”. Seems a little off to you, doesn’t it? in the case of Christian, he was a man that was taken advantage of at the age of 15 forced to act out violent sexual fantasies by a family friend. Now I don’t know about everyone else but that’s a bit much, isn’t it? There’s no telling what a Dom with a dissociative personality could be capable of.
Throughout the book every interaction the two have is more or less emotionally abusive. While some folks have a kink where the master degrades the pet I feel there’s a certain level of understanding that comes with that. Not to mention it’s only with very specific terms and motions that the pet consents to before hand. It’s not just ” hey can I degrade you?” “Yeah sure!” that’s not how this works…. that’s not how any of this works. It’s a lot more complicated. And with the lines of consent and control not completely clear in the entirety of the book.
Now normally when starting up a relationship you don’t use intimidation tactics…. especially on the first dates. Who does that? Who seriously does that? and Do Not let me get even remotely started on how Christian got jealous over a man talking to Anastasia before they had even started dating. It’s nonsensical to say the least and not to mention an extremely possessive action. It’s not healthy for either partner to be in such a relationship that bars one another from human interaction.
So while some people think 50 Shades is a great example of a BDSM relationship… it really isn’t, and nothing could be further from the truth.
Thusly “50 Shades of No